We celebrated Father’s Day this month. It is lovely for most Dads, a day of tribute. But for some, it is very difficult. Some of their children are no longer here with them to celebrate. One of the most difficult things in the world is for a father, whose role it is to protect his family, to deal with the fact that he can no longer help or protect his son or daughter.
I would like to share the story of John James, bereaved father and sibling — founder of the Grief Recovery Institute, and the Grief Recovery Method, one of the most effective tools which I have encountered for grief. (Excerpt from the GRI Blog follows.)
How the Grief Recovery Method Started: Loss of a Child
All of my life I had been taught to believe certain things about what my job was as a man, a husband, and a father. I had been taught to believe that it was my job to identify problems and solve them. What I discovered right away was that it did not matter who I knew, what I knew, how much money I had, or how intelligent I was – there was nothing I could do. It was the most frustrating experience I had ever had.
Despite all the medical intervention, our son was born. For the first eight hours, it appeared that everything would be all right. Then things started to go wrong. Once again, identifying the problem was easy. I could see the problem: he weighed about two pounds, had black hair, and was encased in a glass box. But there was nothing I could do but stand and look at all the monitoring equipment and feel impotent.
Supporting your journey to a New Normal…
I am certified to teach Grief Recovery Method. 1-on-1 or group classes. Contact me for schedule & details.
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617-410-6309 or barbara@abutterflysjourney.com
for a conversation on how you an find your ‘new normal’.
PS Please consider forwarding this info to someone who suffered a traumatic loss.