by barhop | May 7, 2014 | Blog, Resources, Self-Care & Tools, Tips, Topics & Stories |
Tomorrow is my son Brent’s birthday. He left us just after his 21st birthday. He’d be 33 tomorrow. HAPPY BIRTHDAY, BRENT! I can feel the familiar pall come over me today as I anticipate Brent’s birthday without him physically here, but I know he is here with me...
by barhop | Apr 9, 2014 | Blog, Resources, Self-Care & Tools, Tips, Topics & Stories |
At first, in the early stage of intense grief after I lost my older son Brent, I couldn’t even listen to music — at least not without crying. The only music I focused on was picking out the music for the wake and funeral. My head felt so foggy, I could not even read,...
by barhop | Mar 14, 2014 | Blog, Resources, Self-Care & Tools, Tips, Topics & Stories |
According to behavioral scientists and Harvard professors Francesca Gino and Michael I. Norton, there are real benefits to rituals, religious or otherwise. I agree, especially related to grief, based on my own experience and my observations of the bereaved families...
by barhop | Feb 20, 2014 | Blog, Self-Care & Tools, Tips, Topics & Stories |
for·give verb fər-ˈgiv, fȯr- : to stop feeling anger toward… : to stop blaming… In my book I state: “(In grief) We may need to work on forgiveness—of ourselves or of others; that is very important, and in either case, it frees us.” My son Brent...
by barhop | Feb 13, 2014 | Blog, Resources, Self-Care & Tools, Tips, Topics & Stories |
This week is Valentine’s Day… …what better time to focus on LOVE? Through tragedy and lots of healing work, I learned how important and how healing it is to keep a focus on the love in our minds and our lives. I talk about that in my book, and get messages...
by barhop | Feb 5, 2014 | Blog, Resources, Tips, Topics & Stories |
Why does helping others help you heal? … Shifting the focus off of your pain, for even a short time, can bring great feelings of relief and a sense of purpose and joy in helping another — especially when you see the results or hear the gratitude. I was looking for...
