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ABJ Video Blog – SPIRITUALITY – MEET BRAD

Video Script: This is Brad.  He chose to heal after losing his older brother in a motorcycle accident and his younger brother through stillbirth. You can imagine Brad’s anger and frustration at becoming an only child, his future a bit scary. My name is Barbara J...

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Can Spirit Mediums Help Grief?

Can they really?  I believe they can... but this is one of those 'based-on-your-belief' topics. If you are comfortable trying them, great. If not, that is okay too. Let me tell you about my experience with mediums and what I've seen. At first, when my 21-yaer-old son...

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ABJ Video Blog: NUTRITION – MEET MARIA

Video Script: This is Maria.  She chose to heal after losing her son to an unexplained accident.  Then she had to get through the fear when her only remaining daughter got severe breast cancer. You can imagine Maria went through a kind of personal Hell twice, that was...

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Grief and Eating… the GOOD, the BAD, & the UGLY

Grieving - is food a FRIEND or FOE? Are you an emotional eater? Can the right foods help your stress level? Food can be both friend and foe related to stress and grieving.  I know that I am an emotional eater.  When stressed, I head for chocolate, wine and ice cream -...

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ABJ Video Blog: JOURNALING – Meet BARBARA

  Video Script: This is Barbara.  She chose to heal after losing her brother to an overdose, then two months later, her sister to an in-home accident. You can imagine Barbara feels beaten down and finds it hard to climb out of her grief, ad find hope to believe...

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The Story of the ABJ Butterfly +

There is a story behind this exact butterfly that I'd like to share...  then I will also share a similar story from Wayne Dyer, which makes me feel even more certain that I have the right symbol for my nonprofit. In general, butterflies are an international symbol of...

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Sharing Resources – What Helps YOU Heal???

SHARING RESOURCES What things helped you in your grief? Who made a difference?   Are you willing to share it to help others?     Word of mouth and sharing things or organizations we have found helpful is extremely powerful in helping others.  Why not do that...

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Tell Your Heart to Beat Again

Wow - what a line!  ... and what a song title! ..."Tell Your Heart To Beat Again!"     Haven't you felt like you needed to do that? ...Wish you'd thought of that? ...Wish someone had told you that?   I came across this short video and beautiful  song...   I had a...

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There Is No Wrong Way To Grieve!

Are you feeling pressured, judged, or insecure in your grief? Do NOT let others make you feel that! ... There is no wrong way to grieve!   Let's be honest -- people DO NOT GET IT... unless they have been through a loss similar to yours and have a similar...

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Is Grief Making You Feel Like Scrooge?

Was Christmas PAST awesome? Is grief making Christmas PRESENT sad?   What will Christmas FUTURE be like?     Yes, pretty common questions for those of us who have lost loved ones.  The holidays are often difficult to get through. For me, it's like this:   CHRISTMAS...

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Joy and Grief are Intertwined

Joy Intertwined with Grief?  How? Think about it - it's true.  We incur loss and get engulfed in our grief.  But over time, as the grief becomes less dominant, we can feel joy again.  From then on, we don't completely put aside the grief - it lives side-by-side with...

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Tips & Tweaks For Grief During The Holidays

The HOLIDAYS!  REALLY???... The holidays start EARLY this year with less time after Thanksgiving to get yourself in the mood to deal with them! It is perfectly normal not to want to celebrate holidays after the loss of a loved one. The holidays are not the same - they...

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Can You Grieve AND Be Thankful? …Try this!

Sure you can - why not? It is Thanksgiving and the holiday season is upon us. Loss is difficult but it's not everything, don't let it overshadow all of the good in your life! I'm not suggesting you turn off your grief. You can't. Most often, it's more prominent during...

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Celebrating Others & The Holidays — After Loss

Is it a Herculean effort to be grateful during the holidays? Do you find it nearly impossible to celebrate anything? Are you finding it difficult to cherish the people who remain in your life after losing someone very special to you?   After traumatic loss, it is...

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Finding Gratitude After Traumatic Loss

Why should you be grateful after suffering the traumatic loss of a loved one?  What is there to be grateful for? You feel awful!   It’s difficult to find anything to be grateful for after losing someone close, certainly after the loss of a child, grandchild, sibling,...

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Take NOTHING for Granted

Do you sail through life taking things for granted? Are you mostly oblivious to all of the gifts around you? Do you remember to be grateful for EVERYTHING? We are all guilty of taking things in our lives for granted... until they are GONE. So sad... that we rush...

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Trusting In Our Perpetual Spirit

Do our spirits really continue? How do we trust that? Can we surrender to that belief?   When my 21-year-old son Brent died suddenly in a motorcycle accident, it sent me on a multi-year journey to figure out if he was okay and if his spirit really did continue.  At...

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Are You Giving Yourself Enough Credit?

Have you thought about your accomplishments? Are you giving yourself enough credit for them?  These questions could apply to your life or your grief recovery.   STOP once in a while and think back about how you'd done in the face of adversity or challenge.  I bet...

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Are You Being Authentic In Your Grief?

Are You Being Authentic? How does the word “authentic” relate to grief? The same as it does in any relationship, including the one you have with yourself. Are you being honest about how you feel after the loss of a loved one? Are you taking good enough care of...

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