How do we trust that?
Can we surrender to that belief?
When my 21-year-old son Brent died suddenly in a motorcycle accident, it sent me on a multi-year journey to figure out if he was okay and if his spirit really did continue. At that point, I had gotten away from my Catholic religion and had been working in the international corporate world for years where we were too “busy” to think or talk about such things.
I didn’t trust any of it, but after that tragedy, I had to find out.
As parents, our #1 job is to protect our children. I not only needed hope that my son continued in some form, I needed to confirm his condition, his existence—in any form. And if I found out there was nothing “after” life here, then at least I’d know.
I did traditional things like prayer, therapy, and seeking support from family and friends, but I also journaled, learned to meditate, did several kinds of energy healing, went to spiritual development classes, read tons of books, and watched for signs, writing them down. Two months after Brent’s death, a friend of the family gave me a book written about after-death communications in a very credible way. Then a couple months later, one of my close friends gave me another book that opened my mid to reincarnation (which I did not then believe in).
Around that time, I reached out to a medium through a mutual friend, something I had never done before. I didn’t know what to expect, but was amazed at how “normal” she was and what she knew about my son, mother, and father—things my friend did not know. I started to hope, to trust . . . but I needed more evidence. I went to more mediums (referred to me, the best way) and received more and better evidence.
I was also blessed with friends that my son could communicate through to give me messages. These were people I trusted and did not pay. After one group meditation, that friend described the flowers Brent gave me for Mother’s Day the year he died, and something I’d put in his casket before closing it, which I told no one about. She didn’t even know what it was that she was describing, but I knew immediately! I also saw another friend channel a song from Brent in my living room! I had a huge emotional reaction and we didn’t know where it came from. Then she figured it out and he realized she could understand him. Subsequently, Brent sent her many more messages for me.
One was particularly evident. I moved into a summer place for a few weeks, where this friend had never been. I decided to take a walk before unpacking, and on the way back, I got a text from her: “Brent said ‘Be careful going up your front steps, Mom.’” I smiled, texted “Thanks,” and kept going. When I got back though, I was amazed! There was a large crack the length of the front wooden step. If I’d put my weight on the outside edge, I’d have fallen and hurt myself. Thank you, Brent!
There are many other signs and examples, and I have started work to chronicle the most credible ones from myself and other families I support in my next book. I will have these, other books, and many types of resources in my nonprofit’s new web site, coming soon.
These signs bring us hope about our loved ones, and they help us to surrender to the belief that all of our spirits continue and that we can honestly trust that they do!
I hope you can SURRENDER and TRUST.
Barbara J Hopkinson, President & Exec Dir.,
A Butterfly’s Journey… To A New Normal
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