Barbara J Hopkinson Pens a Stirring Memoir of a Bereaved Mother

…New book follows the heartbreaking tale of a mother who inspires others with hope after facing the losses of multiple children


BOSTON, MA—July 5, 2013—In conjunction with The Compassionate Friends’ National Conference being held this week at The Boston Sheraton Hotel in Copley Square, Barbara J Hopkinson unveiled her inspiring book designed to guide bereaved families through the journey of grief.

Called “A Butterfly’s Journey…Healing Grief After the Loss of a Child,” the memoir poignantly details Hopkinson’s healing and messages of hope as a bereaved parent who lost three children in three different ways: one child through a miscarriage, a son who was a stillborn, and another son in a motorcycle accident.

“The death of a child is not normal,” Hopkinson stresses. “Our children are not supposed to predecease us—our psyche is not prepared for this level of loss. Ripping a child out of a family changes everything.”

According to The Compassionate Friends (, “In the United States, it is expected that over 100,000 infants, children, teenagers, and young adults will die this year. In addition, more than 25,000 families can be expected to face a stillbirth and nearly 600,000 an early pregnancy loss.”

 During her grieving process, Hopkinson’s 30-year marriage came undone, her son flunked out of college, and her IBM job changed dramatically. All this caused great financial stress, and she had to live alone for the first time in her life at age 51.

 Her anguish and grief led her to start and become the chapter leader for the past ten years of The Compassionate Friends of Greater Newburyport, a local support group for bereaved parents. Simultaneously, Hopkinson embarked on a spiritual journey that changed her life forever, allowing her to recover from her grief, focus on the love in her life, and find happiness again.

 Not only does Hopkinson bare her soul as she shares the ups and downs of her healing journey, but she provides insights, tools and resources to help other bereaved parents and families move to love, healing and acceptance.

 “Love is what brings us joy and hope,” Hopkinson stresses. “While not easy, over time, by shifting our focus from one of grief and loss to one of love and happy memories, we heal faster.”

.With deep compassion, Hopkinson advises:

  • “Be patient with yourself and those around you. Everyone grieves differently, including your family. Those who have not been through the death of a child may not fully understand how to support you.
  • Helping others helps you heal. Giving feels good and takes the focus away from your self.
  • Trust your intuition rather than others’ opinions and be open to new and alternative ways of healing as you learn to embrace “a new normal.”

 “I help our bereaved families go from not knowing how the world can possibly move on without their child, to gaining greater confidence in knowing how strong they have become—although none of us would have chosen this method to build our strength,” Hopkinson notes.

 The wisdom gleaned for Hopkinson’s journey detailed in A Butterfly’s Journey has been acknowledged by many, including NY Times’ best-selling author Andre Dubus III (, who said after reading the book: “Barbara Hopkinson has done something extraordinarily generous here: she has taken her bottomless grief and shined a hard-earned light through it, the light that never dies, a parent’s love for her child. A Butterfly’s Journey is an important and timely contribution to the literature of spiritual and life-loving resilience.”

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Barbara J Hopkinson was born in Maine, raised in Massachusetts, and lived several years in New Jersey. A Butterfly’s Journey is her first full-length book, after publishing blogs, articles, and book reviews in the business world. She retired after a successful career in technology sales, including ten years as an IBM executive. One of her passions is travel, having visited more than 40 countries so far. She is a multiple bereaved parent, which inspired her to write about her journey to help others. She founded and continues to lead a local chapter of The Compassionate Friends, an international organization whose mission is to support family after the loss of a child. Barbara has a happy family life with her second husband, James Hopkinson, her remaining son Brad and three adult stepchildren Melanie, Matthew, and Christopher.


Members of the media who wish to review A Butterfly’s Journey may request a complimentary paperback copy by contacting the publisher at (888) 795-4274 x. 7879. To purchase copies of the book, please visit



Barbara J Hopkinson
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P.O. Box 872
Newbury, MA 01951

Gail Jones (Publicist)


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